Three Things to Never Do When a Loved One Dies 

When we lose a loved one – whether it is family, friend, or acquaintance – there is a process we expect to take place. Funeral arrangements are made, notifications are given, estate matters are discussed. We may be part of all or none of this process, but we know that it occurs. There are a great many things that must … More Three Things to Never Do When a Loved One Dies 

A Diary of Healing: A Year of Mourning Comes Full Circle

As I mourned the loss of my Grandmother, I began to document the changes to her gravesite over time as I wrestled with the changes in my own heart, and began to see a corollary between the slow progression of the two. This photojournal is the culmination of the first year of my own personal … More A Diary of Healing: A Year of Mourning Comes Full Circle

Those Creepy Antiques

The return of spring has brought welcome warmth, budding flowers, and something else I’ve been itching for all winter – the return of antiquing season. May marks two major antiquing events in the northeast: Brimfield Antique Show in Massachusetts and the Springfield Antique Extravaganza in Ohio. Last weekend my husband and I traveled to Ohio … More Those Creepy Antiques

On The Loss of a Pet 

In years past, when infant mortality was high and life expectancy was low, death was not a rare and unfamiliar tragedy, but rather a guest who invited himself to our table and dined regularly in our presence, invitation be damned. Households dressed for mourning; we wore our grief, literally, on our sleeves. Death’s presence was … More On The Loss of a Pet 

The First Year of Mourning: Ghosts In the Mirror

This morning when I turned on my computer, a notification from Outlook popped up to remind me of upcoming events on my calendar. Take ring to Littman’s for inspection. Mom and dad’s anniversary. Ashley’s birthday. The typical events I’m prone to forget or get fuzzy about the exact date, which I’ve set up to give … More The First Year of Mourning: Ghosts In the Mirror

Postcard of Disaster: Remembering the Rhoads Opera House Fire

This is just like it [was]. The X mark is where they were sliding down the bodies on a board and then carried them to the morgue. ~Irene, February 2, 1908 When fire broke out in the Rhoads Opera House in Boyertown on the night of January 13, 1908, the blaze illuminated the streets like … More Postcard of Disaster: Remembering the Rhoads Opera House Fire

I Don’t Deserve to Mourn You: The Strange Process of Grieving the Estranged

I held the worn, creased Valentine between my fingers, studying it like an ancient relic I hadn’t seen in years. In truth, it had been years, and yet when I got the call I knew exactly where to find it. I opened the fire-safe box where the most fragile of old memorabilia and important papers … More I Don’t Deserve to Mourn You: The Strange Process of Grieving the Estranged

Your Grief Can’t Read a Chart: The Myth of the Five Stages

It is typical of the human mind, especially when faced with an adversity such as grief, to yearn for order amidst chaos. To search for understanding through organization. To comprehend the intangible through logic. So it is unsurprising that humans took an emotional process as complex and deeply personal as grief and broke it up into five … More Your Grief Can’t Read a Chart: The Myth of the Five Stages